YourView TVC co-host, Olajumoke Alawode – James has revealed she will not go ahead to ask a
man’s hand in marriage after dating him for a long time.
She made this revelation during the TVC YourView show on Thursday as the topic of discussion was ‘how will a man feel if a lady proposes’.
The discussants were OAP Mark Otabor, TVC presenter Mayowa Ajayi, YourView Host Morayo Afolabi Brown , Co-host YourView Akashat – Zibi Nyma, Movie Producer Miss WanaWana and Journalist Damilola Odolowu.
In the heat of the argument, Olajumoke said: ”In toasting, a woman can give the man green light through body gesture but for marriage, you’re a woman, make use of your power I can’t propose to a man. Men are hunters, they are suppose to hunt the women not the other way round. Culture is a tradition of people that is widely accepted.
”Culture evolves but the best way is that, you as a lady can softly have that conversation on what you guys are doing without proposing, I think ladies should better still give obvious signs to get him informed instead of proposing. An African man will not find it funny. A lady can give the body language but not be the one to propose. Give him signs that nearly a blind man will see.”
While Morayo the host partly agreed with her, and still think there is nothing wrong with a woman proposing, Miss WanaWana and others believes most of those videos we watch of ladies being surprised when their man propose, is just for Instagram show off.
Akashat-Zibiri Nyma added: ”In my religion, the prophet’s wife proposed to him. I don’t see a big deal if the woman proposes to a man, a woman will not find it easy for fear of being disrespected bit I see nothing wrong with a woman proposing.”
However, the journalist, Damilola is of the opinion that, ”If a woman proposes to a man, it makes the man feel emasculated.
Sport Analyst and Presenter Mayowa drops, ”If you have a timid man and you love him, be courageous like Deborah in the bible and propose to that man. A woman can give signs to motivate a man, but what if the man is not forth coming.”
Mark Otabor countered him saying: ”If any woman proposes to me, it means that its clear that she wants attention. In a relationship, the only time a man has to shine is when he kneels down to ask his lady “would you marry me?”
It’s a belief in this part of the world that it’s in the place of man to propose to a woman. But when you see a woman proposing to a man, one unconsciously begins to question the act as it goes against the general norms of the society.
How will a man feel if a lady proposes? Let us know your view on this.